Help need girl advice!

"PetarVN, GLI Guy, now with stupid power" (petarvn) 05/16/2014 at 02:03 • Filed to: None

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Before I start, have an M5.

So, tonight I went on the second date with my girlfriend. We had a good time watching a play some friends of mine were putting on. Naturally, I made my move and kissed her. After the play, I socialized with my friends a bit, and then I walked over and hugged/kissed her again. As usual, she did not respond as passionately, or on any level really at all. This girl has had a crush on me for 5 months, and now that she has me, she is not doing anything that I would consider romantic (hugging, cuddling, holding hands, kissing) around other people.

I don't get it.

My problem is that she is a really nice person, so I don't want to leave her. I already shot her down once since she told me she had a crush on me while I was dating another girl about 4 months ago. To top it all off, a friend of mine actually likes her quite a bit, and the girl I'm attracted to right now has a crush on my friend...

So, whatdoidooooo?

Also, I'm going to spend time with this good looking (read: Drop-dead gorgeous, need-to-get-in-to-her pants hot bombshell of a babe who is also really cool to socialize with) girl this Saturday. Now, I've liked this girl for a while since, you know, SHE IS SOOO HOTTTTTTT, but earlier today I learned she is quite dangerous, in the she can be kinda nuts sometimes kind of way.

Again, how do I go about both of these situations without hurting anyone or myself?

Big Bubba Ray > PetarVN, GLI Guy, now with stupid power 05/16/2014 at 02:07

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Crazy girl: RUN. No matter how hot she may be, run for the hills man.

Current girl: take is slow. She may be thrown off cause she thinks it may be to fast so far.

I have very little experience with ladies, but hopefully this helps a bit.

Side note: I'm drunk so take my advice with a grain of salt.

CRider > PetarVN, GLI Guy, now with stupid power 05/16/2014 at 02:08

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You're upset because she's not an exhibitionist?

Your boy, BJR > PetarVN, GLI Guy, now with stupid power 05/16/2014 at 02:10

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2 things:

1.) You seem a bit inexperienced, and are coming off as a bit of a dick, wanting her for arm candy/sticking it in her more than anything else. (I really mean no offense at all, I've been there, and I'm just being as honest as possible)

2.)Pics?

Bonus.) Maybe she's uncomfortable with PDAs

PetarVN, GLI Guy, now with stupid power > CRider 05/16/2014 at 02:11

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No, I'm upset because even when we're alone, she doesn't really want to do anything, and believe me, I've tried enticing her with conversation on A LOT of female topics (Frappucinos, Clothing, Make up, hot guys other girls should date etc...) but she does not seem to be happy in the relationship we're in right now....

Your boy, BJR > Big Bubba Ray 05/16/2014 at 02:13

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BUBBA SPEAKS THE TRUTH (I like to pretend you're my sane alter-ego)

Big Bubba Ray > Your boy, BJR 05/16/2014 at 02:17

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YEAH YEAH YEAH! And you're my insane alter-ego.

PetarVN, GLI Guy, now with stupid power > Your boy, BJR 05/16/2014 at 02:18

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1.) Sorry I'm coming off as a bit of a dick, I am actually very respectful in person, and am really tired right now since I'm very behind on an English project that is worth 3 times what our final is. I truly and honestly think she is a great person. she's really nice, and kinda cute, but I just can't get anything (by this I mean even talking wise) out of her. Her responses are usually 2-4 words, unless it's a plan to go to starbucks or something.

2.) eh, why not?

(I'm assuming you meant the drop dead gorgeous one)

bonus.) Probably, but why? it's not that big of a deal I think... Plus, we've been friends before I started dating her for a year, I thought my flamboyance would have rubbed off on her...

Scary__goongala! > PetarVN, GLI Guy, now with stupid power 05/16/2014 at 02:22

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Sarcastic answer: take her for a drive and rip that e-brake,because apparently that works.

Serious answer: relax and avoid the girl who has your attention for the biggest reason being that she is hawt, le females are hard to read. And I pride myself on being able to read people(tho I probably just think I can :( haha). Any who my guess is girl 1 just doesn't want to send a bad message since she is with her crush(i.e you).

In addition to Big Bubba Ray, I have been drinking, but that is my opinion.

Your boy, BJR > PetarVN, GLI Guy, now with stupid power 05/16/2014 at 02:25

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1.) Just re-read (I'm drunk as fuck, it takse me a few minutes to figure out) OK, i get where you're coming from, i have nothing to add

2.) 10/10 WOULD HOON (with muh wang)

bonus.) I like pizza

Your boy, BJR > Big Bubba Ray 05/16/2014 at 02:26

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YAY WE'RE DEEP INSIDE EACH OTHER!!!!!

…...wait…….

Big Bubba Ray > Your boy, BJR 05/16/2014 at 02:27

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OH YEAH!.....

....wait....wut...

Your boy, BJR > Big Bubba Ray 05/16/2014 at 02:29

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…..so….uh…..I'm gonna go out for a quick smoke……you want me to make crepes in the morning?

Big Bubba Ray > PetarVN, GLI Guy, now with stupid power 05/16/2014 at 02:30

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Shes definitely easy on the eyes. But if she's the crazy one, 10/10 would not hoon.

Big Bubba Ray > Your boy, BJR 05/16/2014 at 02:31

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.....Ya that sounds fun, buuuuut I think I'm gonna go....

It's been...fun?

*runs away*

Your boy, BJR > PetarVN, GLI Guy, now with stupid power 05/16/2014 at 02:33

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Advice time- Ditch the prude-ass bitch you're with, she may be nice, but you can't stick your dick in a personality.

DO EVERYTHING YOU CAN TO WRECK THAT OTHER BITCH'S PUSSAY

FLAMBOYANCE AND SEX WITH LADIES DON'T MIX

*Disclamer, beond wasted, relying on autocorrect to be readable. DO NOT TAKE MY ADVICE! But don't dismiss it, i may have something good hidden under my crassness

Your boy, BJR > Big Bubba Ray 05/16/2014 at 02:34

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BUT I HAVE OFF TOMORROW!!!! I THOUGHT WE WERE GONNA GO ANTIQUING!!!!

Spoon II > PetarVN, GLI Guy, now with stupid power 05/16/2014 at 02:35

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That girl your dating might just be a little shy or something. Sometimes people act a little weird when they`re not used to a situation. Might open up with a bit of time. And take it from me, hot girls are good and all, but if they`re crazy, the hotness might not be worth it.

Denver Is Stuck In The 90s > PetarVN, GLI Guy, now with stupid power 05/16/2014 at 02:36

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I am currently dating someone with whom I was friends with prior. I can say with certainty kissing is weird because of this fact. Its not bad, its just less extraordinary. Maybe that would explain her reaction.

P.S.- I have not sipped the devil's nectar in more than a fortnight

Your boy, BJR > PetarVN, GLI Guy, now with stupid power 05/16/2014 at 02:36

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BEST ADVICE YOU'LL GET ALL NIGHT:

Late night oppo is drunk and/or weird. Come back around 5pm tomorrow for good advice.

PetarVN, GLI Guy, now with stupid power > Your boy, BJR 05/16/2014 at 02:38

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haha thanks, i'll keep that in mind

Your boy, BJR > PetarVN, GLI Guy, now with stupid power 05/16/2014 at 02:39

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*burps, takes 15th shot of the night, chases with malt liquor*

Squid > PetarVN, GLI Guy, now with stupid power 05/16/2014 at 02:39

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So no conversation at all, not responsive to the physical aspect, seems like she has no idea how to handle a relationship. If you were friends before and got along well just take it slow and she'll open up eventually.

With regards to the crazy one, they can be fun, but should be avoided at all costs when you are involved with someone else. I like crazy girls for some reason, but they always come with heart ache and a huge dose of WHAT THE FUCK.

Are you this girls first boyfriend? because that explains all your issues with her. Does she laugh at random jokes or anything?

Side note, like the others, I may be a little drunk but I'm probably not as drunk as some on here tonight. ..

Big Bubba Ray > Your boy, BJR 05/16/2014 at 02:45

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it's...ya it's just not gonna work out....

Your boy, BJR > Big Bubba Ray 05/16/2014 at 02:47

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*hangs self*

Big Bubba Ray > Your boy, BJR 05/16/2014 at 02:48

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*cries from regret*

Frosted > PetarVN, GLI Guy, now with stupid power 05/16/2014 at 03:05

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Disregard females, acquire racecars.

Spasoje > PetarVN, GLI Guy, now with stupid power 05/16/2014 at 03:23

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Girl #1: To give as bulletproof of advice as I can, I gotta ask a couple random-seeming questions... Does she laugh at your jokes when you're not trying to be funny? Have you two kissed before the night in question?

Girl #2: Ne možeš na dve stolice. If you wanna get with girl #2 now, you have to say goodbye to girl #1 if you don't wanna hurt anybody - but write off any chances of getting back together with girl #1 in the future if you do that.

Sedi mladi bik i stari bik na vrh brda i gledaju stado krava. Mladi kaže , "ajde da strimo dole i po...grebemo sve ove krave!" Stari kaže, "ajmo polako, pa emo jednu po jednu."

Also: not drunk, just helpful lol

JGrabowMSt > PetarVN, GLI Guy, now with stupid power 05/16/2014 at 07:38

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You're dating her for how long? Chill dude, get to know her on her terms and she'll open up. Shes probably really overwhelmed by things right now, and instead of taking things slow, youre thinking with the wrong head.

Ask her questions that will make her think, no yes or no questions. Stop being distracted by other girls, keep your pants on, and take things slow. This isnt a race, you have a lifetime ahead of you to learn women, and it simply will never happen, so slow down, and learn this one. She may not be ready to move quickly yet, and without getting to know her, you wouldnt know.

PetarVN, GLI Guy, now with stupid power > Spasoje 05/16/2014 at 09:14

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Yeah, she does laugh at my not funny jokes quite often. and no, I haven't kissed her before the night in question.

BiTurbo228 - Dr Frankenstein of Spitfires > PetarVN, GLI Guy, now with stupid power 05/16/2014 at 10:04

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Hmmm, it could be fear with the current girl you're dating. If she's had a crush on you for a while, and it's only really now that you're showing interest, she might be scared that it's either not genuine or only passing.

Just take your time. If she's still being funny about it in a couple of dates time, just ask her about it. It might be that she's got a real thing against PDA, or just hasn't noticed it's something she does.

infectthis > PetarVN, GLI Guy, now with stupid power 05/16/2014 at 14:50

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Treat both like you don't care, not full-on asshole, but with the mentality that there's 1000 other hotter chicks out there. Be confident. See who plays ball.

Spasoje > PetarVN, GLI Guy, now with stupid power 05/16/2014 at 16:07

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Then - given that and her age - she's just flustered, nothing to worry about. Take things day-by-day and feel out where she's at, and progress at an according tempo. Know that if she's gonna give you the cold shoulder, she'll make it MUCH more obvious - so just be patient with her and show her your affection, at the level that you feel is appropriate for the situation.

Sreno!

mazdaspeed2 > PetarVN, GLI Guy, now with stupid power 05/16/2014 at 18:17

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The girl you are with right now sounds like me with the girl I dated previously. I was VERY inexperienced, and I didn't want to anything to mess it up cause I had a crush on her for a while, so I didn't really do anything anddd she dumped me. It worked out great for me, because looking back now I wouldn't want to be with her, and I realized I only liked her because she reminded me of one of my friends that I didn't realize I had a crush on. I have been dating said friend for over a year now and I couldn't be happier.

Advice: Give her some time to let her open up to you, she sounds overwhelmed like others have said. If she still doesn't open up, talk to her about it and be upfront then go from there.

Nick Caruso > Your boy, BJR 05/23/2014 at 21:24

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This is excellent advice, clearly you're so drunk that you are giving good advice that you perceive to be bad because of alcohol .